feat: support ALTER CONNECTION CONNECTOR WITH

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pending for #22496

Description:
This PR introduces support for altering certain Kafka connection properties on the fly using the ALTER CONNECTION ... CONNECTOR WITH SQL statement. The following changes are included:

• New E2E Test:
  Added e2e_test/ddl/alter_connection_connector_props.slt to verify the behavior of altering connection properties, including secret management, error cases, and dependent object validation.

• Connector Logic Update:

  • Introduced CONNECTION_ALLOW_ALTER_ON_FLY_FIELDS to specify which connection fields can be altered without dropping/recreating the connection.
  • Implemented check_connection_allow_alter_on_fly_fields to validate allowed fields for connection alteration.
  • Added get_connection_names_with_allow_alter_on_fly_fields for introspection.
  • Updated macros to map connection names to their type names for property validation.

• Test and Validation Enhancements:

  • Extended connector property validation and test coverage for connection alteration.
  • Ensured that dependent sources and sinks continue to function after connection properties are altered.
  • Added error handling for disallowed or unknown field alterations.

These changes improve the flexibility and manageability of Kafka connections in RisingWave, allowing for secure and controlled updates to connection properties without service interruption.

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