Bump the minimum Arrow requirement to 10.0.0

Because the `COMPATIBILITY` was changed to `SameMajorVersion` in Arrow 10.0.0:
https://github.com/ljishen/arrow/blob/apache-arrow-10.0.0/cpp/cmake_modules/BuildUtils.cmake#L162
https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-12175

Overwrite instead of append the value of CMAKE_CXX_FLAGS

Update prerequisites for development in README

Update project_options to version v0.22.4

Do not install arrow library by default by "cmake install"